Monday, December 26, 2005

Insight.

Was hanging out at Peiyu's place on Saturday night, watching dumb movies, drinking, and just generally hanging out with the guys. Somehow or other the conversation topic switched to relationships. So, I remembered what Pet and Rui said before (separately) about how a relationship will only hit you when you're not looking and expecting one. And voiced that out. But as I was telling the guys the theory, the exact reasoning hit me in an inspired moment.

When people are actively looking for a relationship, they're looking for a person who fits their expections. However, chances are, the person they're looking for with all these qualities is merely an unattainable ideal. So they stress themselves out and try too hard to find this person. When they find a person who might vaguely satisfy some of these qualities, they begin to hope, and even expect this person to be the ideal they've been looking for.

The problem is that this person very probably cannot meet them all these heightened expectations. This leads to a disproportionate relationship, with one party expecting too much out of the another due to pre-conceived notions of what the relationship should be. And it cannot last - sooner or later they'll realise that the other party cannot live up to this ideal.

The solution? Relax, my friends. Pointless to stress over this. If we just go through life with our eyes open, without unreasonable expectations, eventually possibilities will appear. All we gotta do...is to keep on walking.

Saturday, December 24, 2005

And when I die...

Waiting, waiting

Examination Results are not available

Oh wells. Probably because I just paid my school fees by cheque today. Procrastination strikes again...

Been a fairly good couple of days. Bought presents, took in some culture (carolling counts OKAY), ate good food, spent quality time with friends.

Have a Blessed Christmas, everyone.

Wednesday, December 21, 2005

Ipoh.

Day 1.

Sat on a coach from 10am to almost 6pm. Almost a full day gone. Got picked up by my dad's friend. Checked into Heritage Hotel. Realised that I've actually been to Ipoh before on a school trip; in fact, this was the same hotel that I stayed in on that trip, 4 or 5 years ago. Dumped stuff, went to a little street with roadside hawkers lining the road. Not much of a trip so far, yeah?

Then we ordered food.

Wow.

Smooth wantan mee, with enormous soft meaty wantans. Sourish penang laksa. Crunchy pig innards porridge. Golden fried beancurd. Chewy roasted pig's head. Cheap, delicious. Excellent. Perhaps a bit on the unhygienic side, but then again, a little dirt never hurt anyone. What an experience.

Then we went to the pasar malam. Bought T-shirts.

Then we went to get more food! This time we had beansprout chicken. Lean, juicy kampung chicken, served with fat crunchy beansprouts on the side. Delectable.

Back to the hotel for shower and sleep.

Day 2.

Dim sum for breakfast. Since a picture paints a thousand words...


Yummy.

Then we went up to the Cameron Highlands. Drove up and down.


Late lunch of prawn mee and stewed duck. The prawn mee was very interesting! It came in a big pot, and the soup was a light broth, like hor fun, but less thick. Totally unlike the local type with dark soup. There were big prawns, too, but most of the flavour in the soup came from the cabbage and other veggies that made it very sweet. The noodles were the skinny yellow type - very smooth, and a joy to slurp down with the soup. Wow. The stewed duck was tender and juicy - a meaty side dish to complement the smooth, light noodles. Great stuff.

Then we went to a shopping center and (what else?) did some shopping. Got more cheap T-shirts.

Had a late dinner at a chinese restaurant. Claypot-braised seafood, steamed fish, butter prawns, ginger chicken, kangkong. Again, friggin good stuff. The seafood came in a thick, rich sauce that soaked up all the flavour of the assorted dried seafood - scallops, abalone, mussels, clams, along with mushrooms and yam. I forget what the fish was called - but it was some type of catfish. Thick white flesh with few bones, with none of the muddy taste that sometimes accompanies freshwater fish. Accompanied with a soya sauce just salty enough to lend flavour without overpowering the palate. Unfortunately, the buttery flavour didn't really penetrate the prawn shells, but the prawns were still thick and meaty, if a little bland. Mopping up the butter sauce with the shelled prawns fixed that, though. Diced chicken stewed in a thick ginger sauce that pleasantly shocked the palate. Kangkong stir-fried with chilli and salt water - fresh, yet with a subtle kick. Another marvelous meal.

Hotel, shower, sleep. You know the drill by now.

Day 3.

Left the hotel at 6am to, uhm, climb a hill. When we got there at about 6:30am, there were already several groups of people on the trail. The sun hadn't even risen. Talk about early risers. Climbed the hill, walking mostly but being forced to run uphill at intervals thanks to my crazy brother dragging me along. Reached the top. Took in the view.


The ethereal fog obscuring the horizon. Past, present, future, they all merge. What were we then? What are we now? What will we be? Does it matter? Omnia mutantur, nihil interit. A rare moment of introspection.



Climbed down. Visited the wet market.

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How to skin a live frog:

1. Fish out a live frog from the basket.
2. Break its back by gripping its head and flicking your wrist backwards, using the heel of your palm as a pivot.
3. Using a pair of scissors, smack the frog on the forehead.
4. Snip off its feet.
5. Scissor off its head at the throat with a V-shaped cut.
6. Using a pair of pliers, grip the flap of skin at the throat and pull downwards towards the rear feet of the frog. The skin should come off in a single piece, much like removing your hand from a glove.
7. Wash off the blood.
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Breakfast was wantan mee, and glutinous rice with kaya. Yes, kaya. Unfortunately too sweet for my liking, but an interesting idea.

Visited some caves. Ran into a policeman who wouldn't (!!) take a bribe. Dad's friend got a ticket for a faulty brake light.

Lunch - fried fish, pig trotters in vinegar, 2 beancurd dishes, an omelette, kangkong, and a salted veggie soup. Oh, and 5 bowls of rice and drinks. All for 35 ringgit. Woah. Okay, to compare - dinner at the Chinese restaurant was 120 ringgit. Back home, a decent tze char meal would probably cost something under $100. For those unfamiliar with the currency exchange rates, 35 ringgit works out to under $16. For 5 people. With 7 dishes. Amazing. And, most importantly - the food was good. What a deal.

After lunch, we headed back to the hotel for a nap, then we went out to do some final shopping. Dinner was bak ku teh. Tender cuts of meat, chewy intestines and stomach, rich thick soup. Satisfying.

Hotel, shower, sleep.

Day 4.

Breakfast of prawn porridge (with 2 different types of prawns!) and frog porridge. Juicy prawns and firm, meaty frog - marvelous.


I did think about the poor frogs, and how I saw them being skinned at the market. But I ate the frog porridge anyway.

And it was really good.

Then it was time to say goodbye and we got on the coach and now, a few hours later, I'm back here. The moral of the story? There's really good eating in Ipoh. Bring an appetite, if you ever find yourself in the area.

Saturday, December 17, 2005

Shortest entry ever.

Heading up to Ipoh for a family trip. Leaving Sunday morning, be back on Wednesday. Byebye!

Tuesday, December 13, 2005

Wow.

What a party. More than 13 straight hours of fun, fun, fun, and a full day of recovery afterwards. You had to be there.

So people started trickling in a bit before 7, and mostly didn't get (too) lost. And the turnout was much better than I'd dared to hope - over 50 people turned up, from all over. And it was a pity that I was so busy running around the whole evening that I couldn't really sit down and spend time with all the different groups of people. But I glad that people had fun! And that was really the most important thing for me that night.

I might have said this before, but, really - thank you so much, everyone, for coming down and having fun. Thank you for all the prayers and well-wishes. Thank you for all the most excellent and amazing presents! And beyond this party, thank you all so much for being my friends and more through this journey. For putting up with me. For just lending a helping hand when I need one. And I believe that I get by with (more than) a little help from my friends.

I won't forget that evening, and the milestone it signified.

P.S. I have too many photos to upload. So, I'll send them out to people on request. And those people who took photos - PLEASE SEND 'EM TO ME! Then eventually I'll print out all the good ones and put it all in an album. Thanks all!

Saturday, December 10, 2005

Random thoughts.

I'm pretty sure she hasn't appeared yet, or I just haven't gotten to know her enough yet.

Whatever. Quiet weekend nights just ain't my thing.

Thursday, December 08, 2005

Wishlist

Most excellent bash last night, followed by a lazy day of rest and recovery...and it's only been 2 days since the last paper was over. Gonna be a crazy break. That party thing, Eskibar, drinking 101 session, prayer group gathering, CG gathering, Ipoh trip, JB trip - so much great stuff to look forward to, and so little time!

And speaking of the party, I'm posting a birthday/Christmas wishlist here as requested. I don't normally do this, but then again I don't normally throw a big party, and if it helps to solve headaches... So, without further ado!

1. Classic graphic novels.

V for Vendetta
Sin City
Maus
Batman: The Dark Knight Returns

2. More graphic novels.

The Sandman Presents: Taller Tales
The Sandman Presents: Thessaly — Witch For Hire
The Little Endless Storybook
Death: At Death's Door
Fable
Hellblazer (anything after Tainted Love but excluding Son of Man)

3. Novels.

Stardust, Neil Gaiman and Charles Vess (the illustrated version)
Anansi Boys, Neil Gaiman
Neverwhere, Neil Gaiman
American Gods, Neil Gaiman
Frank Herbert's Dune series (anything after Children of Dune)
The Divine Invasion, Philip K. Dick
The Transmigration of Timothy Archer, Philip K. Dick

4. Other stuff

Music - classic rock, funk, downtempo
A sports watch, for the (myriad) times which I do sports
Sneakers (US size 9, UK size 8.5)
Shades (don't ask what happened to my old pair)

And, somehow, my blog entry got hacked or something. So I had to retype everything from "Other stuff" onwards. And now I cannot remember what else was on the list. Still, if anyone actually *gasp* wants to get me stuff from the list, tell me so that there isn't duplication. Thanks in advance!

Saturday, December 03, 2005

Most excellent.

My feet are hurting like mad and my eyes are half-closed but I'm friggin happy. Totally great day.

Paper - wells, I said that I don't want to talk about it, and I still don't, but I suppose running outta things to write with 10 mins to spare isn't as bad as running out with an hour to spare. No comments.

Then we had prayer/sharing. Great time of fellowship. Spiritual food. And I'm thankful for this little prayer group that we have, that we can come together in Christ to remind ourselves of why we're here, the greater purpose and meaning behind all this.

Lunch, then ice-skating, with the usual TG8 group - and Nelson joined us, and man, he can skate! Lester came for lunch too but he had to drive afterwards so he didn't come into the rink. All the best to Lester for his driving test tomorrow! Our prayers are with you!

Oh, yeah, that ice-skating thing - I can sorta skate, to my utter surprise, even though I've only skated once before like many many years ago (and no I cannot rollerblade). But, crap, at times I was so focused on not falling down to the point of stress. At least I didn't have any painful falls, so yeah, cannot complain. And Pet's friends came to join us - the more the merrier, cool.

Then we went to shoot pool when they closed the rink for resurfacing. And I cannot friggin shoot pool anymore - the aiming's all off. Still, Bert and I have a theory as to why we weren't on form today, but that stays between us...

After that, family time - my mother's birthday. Went to Crystal Jade. Good food, great company. Am thankful for my family, which I so often take for granted.

And after we got back I was sorta figuring that that should be the end and I should probably shower and go to bed but then my brother wanted to go shoot pool. Even though I'd already shot pool earlier in the day, and he too had already shot pool earlier in the day. But okay, fine, if my brother jios me out to shoot pool how can I say no? So we went to shoot pool. Living within walking distance of a pool parlour helps.

And I am really really thankful that we could really spend some quality time together. I mean, I'm not naturally close to my brother. I seriously care for him but our interests are just so different that we often have no common ground. But I'm seriously very happy that today we could just spend time together talking about random stuff, of having that shared moment of empathy. Just relating to each other, sharing what's been going on with our lives, just...being brothers. And there's really nothing more I can ask for.

Oh, and yeah, I shot better pool in the evening with my brother. Bert, our theory is holding firm...

Thanks, everyone, for a friggin excellent day.